Oxytocin (Oxy-Toe-Sin), one of the most beautiful hormones and neurotransmitters in the entire body,. It is known as the ‘love hormone’, the “cuddling hormone’, and the ‘bonding hormone’. Oxytocin is released whenever you are making friends, engaging in sexual activity, feeling an orgasm, or feeling emotions and true love.
Poets, Musicians, and Playwrights have been the greatest pioneers in helping us understand love but we still have much to learn about the mysteries of love and how it evolves.
Oxytocin is very well studied in female reproduction, mainly the large amounts of oxytocin that are released during labor and breastfeeding between a mother and her child. This explains why its role is so important in feelings of attachment, safety and security, and sexual activity that involves emotions.
As it turns out, oxytocin is the great facilitator of life as the more this hormone that we produce in our bodies the more generous, trusting, and selfless we become. Oxytocin has also been known to reduce cravings as we usually eat more to comfort ourselves during times of stress and grief. Other links have been made that identify oxytocin as a wound healer and a counter to cortisol, the stress hormone. This is great because the less stress that we have the stronger our immune system and the faster we recover!
So how do we increase the love?
1. Become more physical. Wake up in the morning and hug someone whether it is a brother, a parent, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or even a pet.
2. Give words of encouragement to yourself and others. Use words like Can, Will, Hope, Positive, Peace, Commit, Believe, Possible.
3. Actively Listen to others. Do not just look at them while they are talking, engage yourself by interacting with your body, eyes, mouth, and face.
4. Smile, it is our greatest weapon. How many times have you walked outside and had a beautiful baby or child smile at you? He is reflecting off your goodness, you just aren’t paying attention.
5. Breathe. in through your nose and out through your mouth. Close your eyes and do this even if it is for 5 seconds. Say I’m breathing and alive several times.
6. Exercise, go for a walk around your apartment or go to the gym even if you are just listening to music and surrounding yourself with the productivity of others. Rome was not built in a day.
7. Give, Give, Give. It is very easy to take but very difficult to give. The more love you can give, the more open you leave yourself to receive.
8. Massage. The more relaxed we are, the clearer we think and the more we love. If you can’t afford it then get a foam roller, or a lacrosse ball, or even have a friend walk on your back for a few minutes.
Remember, oxytocin starts with you. The more you inject yourself with it, the more you will be able to inject others. Everyone eventually finds love and it is only a matter of time. Every delay has its blessings so don’t ever give up. As Frank Sinatra says, “The best is yet to come”.
“And, in the end. The love you take is equal to the love you make.”
― Paul McCartney, The Beatles