Stress, its a part of everyday life. As a matter of fact, if you did not have any stress then you would never get anything done. The real difference between a successful person and an unsuccessful person is that the former uses stress to activate his/her activities and lifestyle whereas the latter lets it shut them down.
Eustress is a term used for positive stress whereas distress is negative stress, pretty straightforward right? Most people use the term ‘stress’ to describe negative situations.
Positive stress is an activator where it motivates and allows for focused energy. It comes in spurts and is short term and it feels exciting and euphoric and leads to increased performance. Distress on the other hand is disabling and very taxing as it causes anxiety and is built up over short periods of time and may lead into long periods of exhaustion. Most people who have distress typically describe it as unpleasant, have decreased performance and their mental and physical capacity is usually handicapped.
Examples of eustress could be:
- Meeting someone special (oxytocin yay!)
- Starting a career
- Taking a vacation or relaxing in the sun
- Buying a new car or home
- Achieving short and long term goals
- Receving a promotion at work
- Starting a new hobby
- Learning something new like a language or sport
- Getting engaged or married
- Having a baby
Examples of distress could be:
- Going through a divorce
- Coping with the death of a loved one
- Losing a friend
- Getting a serious illness or injury
- Overworked and underpaid
- Financial troubles
- Lack of a social circle or neglect
- Legal troubles
Fears, Intrusive thoughts, Overcommitment/Overscheduling, Boredom, Procrastination, Unrealistic Expectations, and Worry are all works of evil. Remember, life is 80% of what happens to use and 20% of how you react to it. Life is certainly challenging but it is beautiful and if you saw the size of the blessing coming, you would understand the magnitude of the battle you are fighting .
Do not let stress disable you, let it activate you and watch the events sway in your favor. Be a warrior, not a worrier.